There was a phase where I chased goals just to chase something.
More content. More speed. More results.
And still… I felt disconnected. Like I was climbing stairs that didn’t lead anywhere I cared about.
That’s when I paused.
Stopped asking, “What should I do next?”
And started asking, “Why am I doing any of this?”
I didn’t find all the answers right away. But I did find a way to look at it differently.
Something I now call my purpose pyramid.
It helped me get clear on goals that don’t just look good — but actually feel right.
The top: Purpose
At the top of my pyramid is something simple but strong:
What do I want my life to mean?
Not in a heavy, dramatic way.
Just… what really matters to me?
- Connection
- Creativity
- Peace
- Growth
That’s my foundation. If a goal doesn’t line up with at least one of those, I’ve learned to question it.
The middle: Direction
This is where goals start to take shape.
If Purpose is “Why”,
Direction is “Where”.
I ask:
- What kind of work pulls me forward?
- What kind of habits help me feel like myself?
- What kind of people and spaces help me breathe easier?
This level keeps me from drifting into “busy” and forgetting what I’m building.
The bottom: Daily actions
This part used to stress me out.
I used to think: If I don’t have a perfect routine, I’ll never get anywhere.
But now I ask a simpler question:
“What’s one small thing I can do today that supports the direction I care about?”
That might be writing one paragraph.
Turning off my phone for an hour.
Telling someone “thank you” with my full attention.
Tiny things. But they stack up.
What happens when it’s aligned
When all three layers line up — purpose, direction, and action — something shifts.
Work feels more like expression.
Rest feels more like fuel.
I stop comparing so much. I start trusting myself more.
It’s not perfect.
But it feels mine.
And that changes how I show up.
What I remind myself often
- If it doesn’t align, it’s okay to let it go
- I don’t need 100 goals. I need a few that really matter
- Small actions matter more than big plans that never happen
- I can change directions without starting over
If your goals feel heavy or disconnected, maybe it’s not about doing more.
Maybe it’s about checking the pyramid.
Top to bottom. Purpose to actions.
Because goals that align feel different.
They feel like home.
